yup I did it and I am so proud of myself... so I went over this wife's house... ok so I didn't completely confront her but I let her know how I was feeling... I told her I don't mind being there when she needs someone but calling me only when you need something just isn't cutting it! so basically she felt bad and said she was sorry she just didn't want to call or text me all the time and run me away... which I get so hopefully it will change even when the hubby comes home since when he is around she disappears...
lets hope!!
18 August 2010
11 August 2010
doormat
so that is how I feel lately with certain people in my life...
let me explain:
so this girl who's hubby is in my hubby's company (lower rank-not that I care at all), use to have a circle of friends (yes that is what they called themselves not me-middle school much)... well one day they all stopped talking to her cause of drama she started "supposely"... (talked about it before- a wife was being choked and she told me then the one who was choked tried to mess with my hubbys career)... anyways, the wife who told me seems to not have any friends, I dont mind hanging out with her since our daughters are close in age and can play and we can just hang out (I dont' mind listening to the drama but I don't want to be in the middle of it)... but it seems like she only wants to talk when her hubby isn't home or doing soemthing to piss her off or if she needs a ride somewhere... I am not saying I wouldn't give her a ride but I am tired of being used, guess is the best way to put it... next week the guys are gone so I wouldn't be suprised she tries to call me all the time to "hangout"... she once even mentioned how she hasn't been off post in forever, their car needs to be fixed but for some reason they haven't done it yet and her man drives it to work everyday... and then the other day he went golfing instead of being there for her, not to mention how much they need to clean their house! (dead flies just laying on the ground and her feet are black when she hasnt moved from the couch!-so nasty) I understand she is pregnant but he has been getting off early every day he could help... just my opinion
so I don't even know what to say to her... I don't want to be her friend when she has no one cause that is extremely draining on me and lately when I want to scream I start a fight for no reason with the hubby just so I can yell... I know its wrong but what can I say to her? she lost all her other friends for doing the right thing (in my opinion) and the guys are worse about the gossip then the wives (just saying)!! I am not a temporary friend but she makes me feel that way! I don't mind being there when she needs it but its definately a one sided friend and I have no idea how to let her know its not cool............
ughhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.... well back to homework and pretending my phone is dead (heheh i know shitty but what can i do)
let me explain:
so this girl who's hubby is in my hubby's company (lower rank-not that I care at all), use to have a circle of friends (yes that is what they called themselves not me-middle school much)... well one day they all stopped talking to her cause of drama she started "supposely"... (talked about it before- a wife was being choked and she told me then the one who was choked tried to mess with my hubbys career)... anyways, the wife who told me seems to not have any friends, I dont mind hanging out with her since our daughters are close in age and can play and we can just hang out (I dont' mind listening to the drama but I don't want to be in the middle of it)... but it seems like she only wants to talk when her hubby isn't home or doing soemthing to piss her off or if she needs a ride somewhere... I am not saying I wouldn't give her a ride but I am tired of being used, guess is the best way to put it... next week the guys are gone so I wouldn't be suprised she tries to call me all the time to "hangout"... she once even mentioned how she hasn't been off post in forever, their car needs to be fixed but for some reason they haven't done it yet and her man drives it to work everyday... and then the other day he went golfing instead of being there for her, not to mention how much they need to clean their house! (dead flies just laying on the ground and her feet are black when she hasnt moved from the couch!-so nasty) I understand she is pregnant but he has been getting off early every day he could help... just my opinion
so I don't even know what to say to her... I don't want to be her friend when she has no one cause that is extremely draining on me and lately when I want to scream I start a fight for no reason with the hubby just so I can yell... I know its wrong but what can I say to her? she lost all her other friends for doing the right thing (in my opinion) and the guys are worse about the gossip then the wives (just saying)!! I am not a temporary friend but she makes me feel that way! I don't mind being there when she needs it but its definately a one sided friend and I have no idea how to let her know its not cool............
ughhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.... well back to homework and pretending my phone is dead (heheh i know shitty but what can i do)
06 August 2010
update
so i took the peanut to the doctors, when i called them they said she needed to be seen!! anyways, we got there and she had basically been napping all day and barely eatting or drinking... we had the same nurse that was there for her one year check up so she screamed the whole time while she tried to take her tempture... it was 102.8 when they got it!! so they gave her tylenol and said 2 ml that i was giving wasnt enough but it knocks her out so why would i give her more!?!?!?
well the doctor came in her room (not her normal pediatrian bt still very nice), anyways he said that her throat was very red!! she does have the bug that is going around, a bug that every kid gets before they are two... but atleast its not as bad as it usually is this season the fevers are milder... the reason her fever is so high is cause of her shots, so i was right the shots were making it worse so she is having a mild reaction and it might turn into a rash but not to be worried...
it sucks there is nothing i can do for her except let her hang out in a diaper (which she finally stopped trying to take off!) and give tylenol but only 4 times a day every 4 hours, she can also have motrin but we dont have any and i dont really want a completely drugged up kid!!
well she is sleeping for now hopefully she can sleep thru the night and tomorrow she will drink and eat a little more...
cross your fingers for us!!
well the doctor came in her room (not her normal pediatrian bt still very nice), anyways he said that her throat was very red!! she does have the bug that is going around, a bug that every kid gets before they are two... but atleast its not as bad as it usually is this season the fevers are milder... the reason her fever is so high is cause of her shots, so i was right the shots were making it worse so she is having a mild reaction and it might turn into a rash but not to be worried...
it sucks there is nothing i can do for her except let her hang out in a diaper (which she finally stopped trying to take off!) and give tylenol but only 4 times a day every 4 hours, she can also have motrin but we dont have any and i dont really want a completely drugged up kid!!
well she is sleeping for now hopefully she can sleep thru the night and tomorrow she will drink and eat a little more...
cross your fingers for us!!
05 August 2010
rough day
so my day basically just started and started off pretty bad... last night around 1130 my daughter woke up screaming when i went to check on her to make sure she was ok her whole body was on fire!! she had just had a bath before i put her down and her room wasnt hot so i was alittle nervous... she wouldn't take a bottle but she let me take her tempature, it was 99.9... so i gave her some tylenol... that seem to help her lay down atleast... the hubby got home around 1230 (at the range all day) and she took a bottle from him (figures)... she finally crashed out laying on me at 1am and i was able to put her in her crib... this morning she was still sleeping at 9am but i took her temp again it was still 99.9!! so i called her doctors to see if i should bring her in or keep up with the tylenol since i know there is a bug going around but she just had her shots the friday before... they told me to come in... so i texted my friend (so i thought)... we were suppose to go see her and her kids but if haylie is sick i didn't wanna bring her over and spread it...
well once i told her i was bringing haylie to the doctors she told me i over react to much... i take her to the doctors basically every other week! 3 ear infections and 3 rechecks, her basical visits and one er trip cause she didnt pee all nite and she had a double ear infection, and once before we flew cause the doctor said we should since she just got over an ear infection, sorry i am a first time mom and i dont want my daughter to be in pain!! she said my kids chart is definately bigger then a normal kids and the doctors were gonna flag me as a having munchausin... which honestly i don't hurt my daughter or try to make her sick at all... i hate it when she is sick all she does is cry and sleep and she is so not fun!!
basically she crushed me...i know she has 5 kids and been through it all but why can't i take my kid to the doctors if she is sick! both me and my brother and my husband brother had bad ear infections as kids!! yes i know she is getting a tooth and she sometimes gets a fever but not where her whole body is on fire and not when i cant put her down for 2 seconds without her screaming...
before her party we took her in cause she was on bactrim for an ear infection and she seemed to be getting worse... it was a new antibotic and i called and talked to HER prediatrian... its not like yes this is what i want to do go spend 3 hours at acute care to be told she never had an ear infection she was diagnosed wrong but she has a cold that will get worse before she gets better!! i dont just go and make appointments i called the nurse line and asked is that really being a bad mom??
i just feel like everything i do is never going to be right for someone and everyone is thinking i cant keep a healthy kid!! i just dont know what to do anymore... one friend tells me i am not overreacting while another tells me i am....
i am just crushed right now.... hopefully she is ok and it is just a bug and not a reaction to shots... so far she is lucky no allergies until my husband and i (he is allergic to mycin and me iodine-fun times)
well gotta get things together for her appointment :(
well once i told her i was bringing haylie to the doctors she told me i over react to much... i take her to the doctors basically every other week! 3 ear infections and 3 rechecks, her basical visits and one er trip cause she didnt pee all nite and she had a double ear infection, and once before we flew cause the doctor said we should since she just got over an ear infection, sorry i am a first time mom and i dont want my daughter to be in pain!! she said my kids chart is definately bigger then a normal kids and the doctors were gonna flag me as a having munchausin... which honestly i don't hurt my daughter or try to make her sick at all... i hate it when she is sick all she does is cry and sleep and she is so not fun!!
basically she crushed me...i know she has 5 kids and been through it all but why can't i take my kid to the doctors if she is sick! both me and my brother and my husband brother had bad ear infections as kids!! yes i know she is getting a tooth and she sometimes gets a fever but not where her whole body is on fire and not when i cant put her down for 2 seconds without her screaming...
before her party we took her in cause she was on bactrim for an ear infection and she seemed to be getting worse... it was a new antibotic and i called and talked to HER prediatrian... its not like yes this is what i want to do go spend 3 hours at acute care to be told she never had an ear infection she was diagnosed wrong but she has a cold that will get worse before she gets better!! i dont just go and make appointments i called the nurse line and asked is that really being a bad mom??
i just feel like everything i do is never going to be right for someone and everyone is thinking i cant keep a healthy kid!! i just dont know what to do anymore... one friend tells me i am not overreacting while another tells me i am....
i am just crushed right now.... hopefully she is ok and it is just a bug and not a reaction to shots... so far she is lucky no allergies until my husband and i (he is allergic to mycin and me iodine-fun times)
well gotta get things together for her appointment :(
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